Happy Thanksgiving

Does time seem to be flying? It does for us...yes, even on partial retirement I can say that! I am not thrilled that Tara put me on VERY part time work, but retirement isn't so bad. I get to nap in my favorite places every day (Tara's bed and the couch :) ).

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This year, like every year, we have so much to be thankful for. We can often get caught in the negativity of life, but we want to encourage you to focus on the good today and every day.

You can read more about the holidays in our newsletter (Delta Family Counseling Thanksgiving Newsletter)

We also wanted to share some things with you!

(With Respect to Animals)  This article touched both of us because we were also saved from being killed. Yes, you read that correctly. We were scheduled to be put to death just because we were born and ended up in the shelter. Thankfully our amazing parents found us and we give love to so many other dogs that have had the same fate and have been saved by rescues. The current rescue we foster for, Brooke's Legacy Animal Rescue, is our third no-kill rescue and we love it.  We currently have our 42nd foster sibling in our home and that doesn't count the dogs that have stayed with us for a few hours because our parents helped with transport and we took care of them until their fosters could pick them up.

Last week Tara took our human brother and did her first "pull". Do you know what that means? She went into the local kill shelter (yes, there is one in Ft Myers) on behalf of Brooke's Legacy and saved a 2 month old puppy from being put on the kill list. It just so happens this puppy was found by a friend of ours and because of rules, had to be turned over as a stray to the shelter. Thankfully "Buckeye" was saved and we are hoping he will be adopted into a home before the BIG game this Saturday. Any OSU fans looking for a great dog? (Here is his Facebook link: Buckeye and Brooke's Legacy's link: Brooke's Legacy Homepage

This woman (Lisa the hero) is truly a superhero! Our two foster dogs are currently pit bull mixes and we all get along great. We play together, they love life, and Tara takes them to the office. In some areas of Florida and across the country, they would have lost their life. That is no different than you being put down because you have freckles or a certain color eye. Yes, that is all that is equal to! Keelie and Holly, our current foster dogs are just that "dogs". They are both babies and only 7 months (so they guess) old. They struggle to get adopted because of housing restrictions, fears that don't have research to back them up. Here they are: (the first photo is Keelie and I under the covers for a nap because it was too cold, 60 degrees, today) and the 2nd is a smiley Holly

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Well, I just learned I get to attend Thanksgiving dinner at my grandparents, so off to their house I go to smell all the good food and play with my first ever foster brother, Blackey (he was adopted by my grandparents!

Happy Thanksgiving
~~Bode (and Abbey too)

Keeping updated...

Hi! It has been a long couple of days! Bode had his surgery yesterday for the "mouth" infection. His teeth are nice and pretty as they cleaned them while he was in there.

He is home and resting, but I know he doesn't feel good. He has this strange mark on his nose (see photo below) where you can see that something was on his nose. I thought Tara said oxygen. They had to stop the procedure and do a chest xray as his EKG came back abnormal. They even told Tara that they switched machines and probes after the xray showed his hear to be a normal size, but the negative enzymes on the EKG are a concern that is being reviewed by the cardiologist.

They got the infection and Bode and has medications to take now. The doctor stressed the fact that Bode not only has allergies to all those foods but also has an auto-immune disorder that we have not yet identified and that makes him more likely to not be able to fight off infections he gets. They even said that the allergies were so bad because the body couldn't fight it for him and the same as the mouth.

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Last night Bode wanted to be with just the humans, no other dogs, not even me. I was ok with that as I took care of the foster siblings for him. It was sad that he missed out on his favorite holiday...Bode LOVES Halloween. He came out to greet one set of trick or treaters, but quickly went back into Tara's room and curled up on the bed. He finally ate and then slept most of the rest of the night. He got sick over night and wouldn't eat his breakfast, but Tara and I left it for him in case he got hungry while we are at the office (I am sneaking in this quick blog between clients).

He is going to hopefully rest up and be back to himself soon. In the meantime...I think  I heard my next client walk in....

~Abbey

Do you ever amaze yourself?

I had some amazing client sessions on Tuesday. I just knew I was going to be able to make the most out of Bode not coming to work for us, even though this decision was tough on all of us. Most clients that are more apt to pick Bode, still know me, but just don't work with me. I have a few that do the same with Bode.

I found my voice again and went back to my roots...those roots that grabbed Tara's attention that I had the ability to be a therapist, even before she really knew it was a "real thing".

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I was so engaged with the client that we spent a lot of time forgetting Tara was there. It was a very client centered session. The client asked Tara to take pictures and was so proud of this collage we made of our interactions together. You can see my engagement with her, most of which was under her direction. I even "talked" with her, which she found funny. The pouncing game she taught me was quite fun. 

This client put her guard down and processed out loud for the first time (or so I am told) that was deep and meaningful. The client was even eager to share with her mom about our session, which is also unique for her.

It is so funny when they forget Tara is even in the room! I love this job and wouldn't trade it for the world. 

I am not sure if it is knowing I have to step up and can't depend on Bode for all the help any more or if the break from having his help the past few years has energized me, but I loved my day!

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On a side note, Tara was working on her lecture for the course she teaches at one of the Universities and we decided that this session could fall into it's own version of Motivational Interviewing. I was so attentive with the client and helped her get her story out. The motivation for change came with the desire to include and share with her mother, as well as recognize how good it felt to laugh, smile, and play!

As I sit smiling, I hope you are too after reading this!

~~Abbey

When Life Throws Lemons...

A big reality came to Bode and Tara this week. I have just watched and supported them through this as I am also struggling with it. After taking a week off from work, it became a realization that our vet was right earlier in the year. She told Tara that I was doing great, but that Bode's age was starting to show and that he should go down to part time work.

Tara was sad to hear this and tried it, but Bode resisted and was back to his self and as good as ever with clients. Life was normal as ever and we work our normal client schedules without problem. This past week, I worked a little more as Bode just wanted to be present in the office, but was struggling to engage the clients. He is tired and just wanted to observe. While there is nothing wrong with that, it is not his "normal" and clients were noticing too!

Each night we got home, Bode would go straight to bed and not even eat his dinner. I played a little with our foster siblings, but Bode would just watch. We really missed our family and working while the conference/vacation happened, but sometimes I hear Tara say "our minds and bodies don't think together, we have to teach them to do it". This photo shows how we found him hiding in one of the playrooms when no clients were there!

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This will be the first week where we try keeping Bode at home part time and focusing my efforts with the clients. I know I cannot replace him and there are things he does that I cannot do, but I will try my best as there are some clients I work with that he doesn't: it's the nature of our work for both humans and canines.

Tara's heart is heavy with this decision, but I heard her talking today to someone about how Bode will do more focused efforts with classroom visits and teaching workshops, which he loves more than I do!

We are thankful for the support of our family, our DFC family, and the community in making this difficult transition, but are reminded that life will often throw you lemons and you must decide what do with them!

Good night!

~~Abbey

Reality Check...

Hide and Seek is a game I often play with clients. I am not going to go into detail now about why and the significance as I have to finish packing. We are headed to our grandparents as the humans go on a vacation and conference where Tara is teaching about using us in play therapy.

My reason for this is to talk about the fact that we don't always know what is going on with others. We may assume and create stories, but they are not always accurate. We saw so many clients over the past few weeks who are dealing with heavy hearts as they process and adjust to new chapters in their lives, and all of them have processed how much their pain grows when they hear rumors.

My challenge for you while we are away is to do a reality check and encourage others to do the same! Are you telling a story because it impacts you or it gossips about others? Don't assume, just grieve and pray for them and all who are involved. Due to the nature of our work, we cannot get more specific than this without identifying some of our clients, however please be careful and check information before repeating it....let's not force people to feel like they have to hide in their homes because people are spreading untruths about their situation and let's let them grown and find a new normal in the collaborative communities we live in!

See you when Tara gets back!

~Bode

Such an honor!

We have been absent from our blog again, but have a lot to share...it will just have to wait as we are busy helping Tara prepare with our friend Steve the Labradoodle and his human therapist, Meredith, for the Association for Play Therapy conference. Tara and Meredith are presenting "Pets at Play" in Cleveland, Ohio and it is all about us (and Steve!). Steve and Bode are too big to travel that far, so we are all staying behind. Tara and Meredith are busy taking photos and videos of us to share.

While we try to be very humble, Tara is insisting we share this email we just received:

"Congratulations on placing in the top 100 of the LIFE+DOG 50 contest. As a qualifier, your dog's name and photo will appear in the magazine." 

Our story of being AAPT dogs and foster siblings was shared and could make it to the magazine. No matter what, we get our photo and names in it!

Be who you say you are!

Is it hard to be true to yourself and others? We don't think so! While it is fun to play dress up and pretend to be someone else with our clients, it is important to always remember who we are. Those of you that know Tara, know how ethical and honest she is and advocates for others to be. Sadly we have heard several stories over the past few weeks where others are not doing the same.

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Sometimes others may want you to be the "Masked fairy basketball player", but you know deep down that it is just pretend and in reality you are still you! In case you haven't guessed...that was my title in this costumed play with one of my clients. While it may be fun to be this character, I am not. I was not trained to be that character and I don't have all the abilities and credentials to be that character.

Have you encountered someone pretending to be someone they are not? Doing something they are not qualified to do? Representing themselves falsely or discrediting others to try to to boost themselves in some way? How do you overcome it?

I wrote this blog at least three times but knew it was a hard topic so kept re-writing. It is not an easy topic to discuss, but sadly there have been three incidents in the past three weeks where we have found others misrepresenting themselves.